Every Monday I get to dissect a naughty dream for my friends at Em And Lo: Sex Love And Everything Inbetween  In this week’s dream we get to find out how a little girl-on-girl action is actually helping this straight gal to improve her relationship with her boyfriend…

I had a dream a couple nights ago that is really making me feel awkward.  I was in a high-rise office building in the kitchenette with a female friend of mine, who happens to be bisexual.  We started making out, and then we proceeded to have sex. Just as I was having an amazing orgasm, my friend asks me what I am going to tell my boyfriend, and I tell her that he won’t mind. 

The weird thing is, I am definitely straight. She is not even a friend that I spend a lot of time with. I am in a happy relationship. I do not understand where this is coming from.   – Curious, But Not Bi-Curious

Lauri: Naughty dreams about people we’d never touch (in that way) with a ten-foot pole can certainly make us scratch our heads… and avoid eye contact with them the next day!  But rest assured, this dream does not mean you need to start questioning your sexuality.

Let’s dissect this dream and see if we can’t make you feel a little less awkward.  The high-rise office building symbolizes something in your life that you have “built,” something you have “worked” hard at, such as your relationship with your boyfriend.

Since you don’t see this friend that is in your dream that much, she is probably not playing herself.  What three words first come to mind when you think of her personality.  Got ‘em?  Okay, now ask yourself which of those qualities you could really use in order to make your relationship with your boyfriend better.  It probably has something to do with the way she communicates.  I say this because that is what kissing in a dream usually means: communication.  What does she communicate like? Could you take on her style as if it were your own?

You wind up having an amazing orgasm because your dreaming mind is telling you that communicating in the same way she does will bring you great satisfaction or allow you a much needed release!  You also wonder to yourself — in the voice of this friend — if this way of communicating will be a problem with your boyfriend.  You then tell yourself, in your own voice, that he won’t mind.  That’s the point at which the dream ends, which means that is the point you need to take with you.  Whatever it is you need to say… go for it because there is great satisfaction to be had, sister!

Curious But Not Bi-Curious: Wow, That really fits what’s going on in my life. My boyfriend of three years and I have been having some problems with how much time we spend alone. I have been avoiding talking to him about it because I am not sure I am being reasonable. My friend is very direct in the way that she communicates, but is also very calm and definitely a one-on-one kind of person. I think I’ll talk with him tonight. Thank you!

Want to be able to understand those dirty little dreams that make you feel awkward… or even excited? I have a whole chapter in my book So, What Did You Dream Last Night? that will teach you everything you need to know about sex dreams. From the disturbing to the downright spicy… it’s all in there!