Lauri in Well+Good: 11 Common Dreams About Your Ex, Decoded

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What Lauri told Well+Good

Well+Good asked Lauri why former partners keep turning up at night. Her first point: dreaming about an ex is very common and almost never means you want that person back. The ex usually stands for something, such as a feeling, a quality or a time in your life, and dreams about the past often signal that something is missing from the present.

She then walked through eleven versions. A first love tends to return when a current relationship has slipped into routine, as a nudge to bring back the spark. A sex dream with an ex is usually about a quality of theirs you want in your own life. Fighting with an ex suggests you are still beating yourself up over the relationship. Breaking into an ex’s car or home reflects wanting to understand why it ended, and seeing an ex with someone new is your mind telling you to move on too. Even a pleasant dream about a hurtful ex can be a sign of healing.

Her advice: notice when the dream started, connect it to what is happening now, and use a dream journal to write out whatever you never got to say. She also suggests not telling your ex about the dream.

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