Lauri in The Everygirl: Dreaming About Your Ex in a Relationship

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What Lauri told The Everygirl

The Everygirl asked Lauri what it means when an ex keeps showing up, and whether it should worry you. She said it is one of the questions she hears most, and that everyone dreams about an ex from time to time, whether a recent breakup or a first love from years ago.

Lauri laid out five underlying causes. Lingering love after being let go tends to bring wish-fulfillment dreams of reuniting or hearing an apology. Dissatisfaction in a current relationship can bring back the spark of a first love, which she says stays imprinted as a symbol of passion. Sometimes the ex is simply a landmark in time, reflecting a wish for who you were back then. Old hurt from cheating or abuse can resurface when a current situation makes you feel victimized again, and pleasant dreams about a difficult ex can actually show you have healed.

For people in a relationship, she says the dream rarely means you want the ex back; it often points to something from that relationship you would like to bring into your current one. Guilt is only warranted if you consciously long for the ex, and concern only if the dreams become constant and weigh on your mood.

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