Every Wednesday I get to dissect a sex or relationship dream for my friends at Em and Lo: Sex, Love and Everything In Between This week’s dream is from a gal who is wondering why she’s dreaming of kissing her childhood ex…

I keep having a dream where I meet up with my childhood boyfriend at the beach. We greet and hug each other hello and spend the day together. Later that evening we go out to dinner and take a stroll along the beach laughing and enjoying each other’s company. We retire for the night in separate rooms where neither of us can sleep or stop thinking about the other. He calls me on my cell and we arrange for him to come up to my room where we sip some wine and enjoy the view of the ocean from the balcony and continue to talk and eventually share the most passionate kiss I’ve ever had. Then the dream ends. I have had this dream several nights in a row for the past three months. What does this mean?

Lauri: Since your dream has been happening for about 3 months now it is connected to something in your life that has been going on for about 3 months. Let’s look at the different elements of the dream and see if we can figure it out for you. Your childhood boyfriend is not necessarily playing himself but rather is standing in for either A) excitement and passion because he is the first person you probably ever felt excitement and passion for, even as a child or B) your childlike, carefree, fun-loving self.

In the dream you can’t stop thinking about each other. What in real life have you not been able to stop thinking about? Has something been going on for about three months now that has been exciting and made you feel like that young fun-loving girl from your childhood? Is something going on that you’re really passionate about? Or is this something you need to bring into your life? Are you in a relationship that needs to be rejuvenated? That may be why your dream is using your childhood boyfriend as he could represent a fun, youthful relationship where everything feels new and exciting again.

The point at which a dream ends (naturally rather than by an alarm) is the main message of the dream. Your dream always seems to end with a kiss. Kisses in dreams are really about communication in real life because – like kissing – it requires two mouths to communicate. Your cell phone in your dream also represents communication so it seems that you’ve either been communicating very well with someone lately or you need to communicate what you need in order to bring this fun and excitement back into your life.

Response from dreamer: Thank you so much for the interpretation of my dream. First, I must start off by saying, I used to be extremely happy, adventurous, and enjoyed simple outdoors trips and getaways. I have been married for five years, but we’ve been together for eleven and one-half years. For the last three years I have been unhappy and for the last three months, I have been struggling with something. My husband and I have not been getting along very well (there are other issues also), and I have been trying to find a way to tell him that I want a divorce. I have been longing for the old “me” when I was fun-loving, full of excitement, and truly happy. In the last three months, I have been coping with my own feelings and emotions trying to make sure that I was making the right decision and that this was something that I really wanted. This time period has been very stressful and emotional. I have since had a discussion with my husband, and although he is not very happy, I feel so relieved and I have not had the dream reoccur to date. I am confident that my life will be better. Thank you again.
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Before I went to sleep, I’d just had a disagreement with my boyfriend and we settled it. It was something silly and laughable in the end.

That night I dreamed that a guy that I used to be involved with was laying on top of me kissing me! (I didn’t think this particular guy was right for me and ended up breaking it off with him a couple of years ago). Anyway, I remember grabbing his shirt and kissing him intentionally — which is weird because I don’t have feelings for this guy (and never really did for that matter). Then I was filled with guilt and pushed him off of me. I couldn’t believe what I’d just done. What does this mean???

I love my boyfriend. We’ve been together for a year and are considering marriage. We’ve just recently realized some differences in the other and have been working to overcome them because we want to be together. Lately, I’ve been filled with thoughts about whether he and I could really work in the long run; I’ve been kind of analyzing him, and the two of us together. I’m scared of what this dream might really mean. Please help!

Lauri: Since you are currently figuring out your relationship with your boyfriend, you can bet this dream is stepping in to help… especially after your disagreement. Okay, let’s talk about this ex and see if we can figure out why your dreaming mind chose him to get its message across to you.

Well, he’s someone you decided was not for you. When you were having your disagreement with your current boyfriend, did those same familiar thoughts creep into your head, “This guy may not be for me”? If so, then that is what he represents. He’s not playing himself but instead personifies what is not right for you. This may be why he was on top of you in the dream. That is a position of dominance, and those thoughts probably dominated your mind for a bit.

Kissing in a dream is almost always connected to conversation in waking life because – like kissing – it takes two mouths to communicate. Did your disagreement with your boyfriend involve a conversation that reminded you of what it was like with your ex? Did you say things to your boyfriend that you used to say to your ex? The good news is that you pushed him off of you in the dream, which means in waking life you successfully pushed away those old, familiar thoughts… and perhaps words, that were eerily similar to what was going on in your mind and coming out of your mouth when you were with your ex.

I believe this dream reflects a certain level of triumph on your part… triumph over old patterns of behavior that may have threatened your current relationship. As much as this dream freaked you out, it was good for you, young lady.

Response from the dreamer: Thank you so much for your response and giving such an in-depth analysis of my dream. You helped me realize that the incident with my current boyfriend conjured up negative feelings that I felt with the ex – feelings that eventually led to me breaking it off with him. I realize now that after the incident, I felt the same way and asked myself the same questions as I did with the ex.

Surprisingly, during that time I’d been thinking about what went wrong in a couple past relationships (the ex in the dream is included). I kept asking myself questions, trying to figure out how I could prevent another similar let down. I wanted to be able to recognize signs with the others that I may have missed while I was involved with them – signs that if I could catch now with my current boyfriend could save me some hurt and pain. When I finally ended the relationship with the ex that showed up in the dream, I wandered to myself “Why did I stay involved with him?” “Why was I even interested in him?” Although I now understand what that ex meant for me during that time in my life, sometimes I get this sneaky doubt that questions if I can trust my own judgment because I was involved with someone who I knew in my gut wasn’t a good fit for me. It’s no wonder that the ex showed up in my dream!

I feel like this dream and your interpretation has helped me to establish clear connections between the relationship with the ex and the incident with my boyfriend. I don’t question my judgment on this issue anymore because I know exactly where it came from. It helped me put the incident into perspective by not letting those fears from past relationships trump the incredible bond I have with my current boyfriend. This has taught me to take away constructive lessons from past relationships and let all the fears and unnecessary crap go and not let them enter my current relationship.

Again, thank you so much for helping me come to a resolution about my dream. I see how dreams help us resolve our conflicts and issues. This was amazing!

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Every Wednesday I get to dissect a sex or relationship dream for my friends at Em and Lo: Sex, Love and Everything In Between This week’s dream is from a married woman who is having naughty dreams about a hot Asian guy…

I love my husband, but lately I have been dreaming of another guy I don’t even know. In the dream this Asian American looking guy kisses me then undresses me and gently fondles my breasts and starts sucking and kissing my breasts. At that moment I wake up. I feel like I am lying to my husband when he asks about my dreams, because I tell him they’re just fine. Can you please help me?

Lauri: Certain naughty dreams that we get from time to time probably are best kept to yourself — not that they mean you desire to get your pleasures elsewhere, but they can cause your mate unnecessary upset. So don’t feel bad for that little white lie.

That being said, let’s get to the meat of this dream! When interpreting your dreams, it is always important to remember that everything and everyone in your dream is actually representative of some part of you (unless that person is someone you deal with on a daily basis). So, this hot young Asian man is not some mammaphile out there, dreaming of you at the same time, but rather he is a part of your own personality. He is Asian because he is a part of you that feels “foreign” and unfamiliar to you.

Notice his obsession with your ta tas. Breasts in a dream are connected to your own ability to nurture and mother something or someone in waking life. It seems that somewhere in your life you need to — or you have — put your nurturing skills to work, even though it may feel like foreign territory to you. Does hubby, a friend, co-worker or family member need a little TLC? Do you have a project or idea that needs some care and nurturing? Or do you need to take better care of yourself? Whatever it is, your dream is showing you that this caring act — like getting to second base — can be quite pleasing to both parties involved.

Dreamer’s response: Wow my dream makes WAY more sense now. I have been trying to have a child with my husband for a couple of years now, but due to finances we keep putting it off. Due to the fact I have PCOS, we know it can get expensive for fertility treatments, so I have avoided taking care of myself and the issue. I guess my brain is telling me to face this head on. Thank you so much!

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A little background: I had a crush on an eastern European guy I met at a night class. I used to be really insecure then, but I managed to get him go out on a date with me. I asked him out again, but he gently said no. I felt we liked each other but there was a barrier that I figured was caused by cultural differences. After a while I realized he wasn’t what I expected anyway and forgot about it. This was about four years ago.

A few weeks ago I thought I saw him on the street and later that night had a dream about him. In the dream I ran into him in a nightclub. He had friends with him and looked younger, more at ease. I remember I fell for him because he was usually very serious, so he seemed very different.

I felt a little awkward and didn’t want him to notice, so I acted very civil. He started to get really upset, even started to cry (completely out of character), saying he thought we had a connection, we liked the same kind of music and that had to mean something. I felt sorry for him, and although I’m over him and actually have feelings for someone else now, I hugged him and we made out. I felt relieved he started smiling. I can’t make sense of this dream!

Lauri: At this point in time, since you seem to have no standing issues with this guy, I believe he is not playing himself but rather represents something you are currently dealing with that feels the same as when he was in your life and in your thoughts.

So let’s look at what stands out about him. There was a cultural barrier that kept the two of you from really connecting. Does anything feel like that now? You have feelings for someone else. Is there a barrier you are afraid will be a problem for you now? You also overcame your insecurities, stepped outside of your comfort zone and asked him out. That’s a big deal! Perhaps your inner mind is urging you to do this again with this current guy you fancy. You also described him as very serious. Anything you need to get serious about right now?

In your dream, he began to cry, which you said was out of character. That right there is a good indication he is not playing himself but instead represents some part of you. When we dream of people we know, and they are not acting like themselves at all, then you can bet the farm they are reflective of some part of the self. So! What is it you have been upset about? What has been going on that makes you want to cry?

Whatever it is, it seems that your dream is giving you a remedy to the situation, which is being shown to you in the form of a makeout session! Kissing in dreams can almost always be connected to intimate conversation that has happened or that needs to happen in waking life because — like kissing — it takes two mouths to communicate. And let’s face it, open, honest conversation is the key to just about any relationship problem.

Dreamer’s response: Thank you so much for this! I’ve been reading your column for a while and I felt I was very close to understanding that dream, but needed some help. I think you’re quite right. The guy I currently have feelings for lives in a different country and I haven’t been able to get through to him by email. I have his number and I wanted to tell him I’m going to where he lives in a few months and I wanted to see him again, but I’m afraid to. It’s been almost a year since we spoke. What if the phone doesn’t work either? What if he already found someone else? What if he notices I have feelings for him and gets all awkward? Anyway, the day of the trip is approaching and I still haven’t decided what to do.

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A few nights ago, I had a dream that my boyfriend of 9 months and myself met up with a mysterious gal pal he had. She was half white and half African American, and while the three of us were sitting on a couch, we both discovered that we were both Bisexual. She and I started to make out while he watched, then we all thought it would be fun to have a threesome. I received a phone call so I left the room and when I came back they were kissing and I felt really jealous. They stopped and I ended up only having sex with him because he knew I didn’t approve. We often joke about having a threesome or consider the idea, but we both end up agreeing we wouldn’t want to share the other. I’m not sure if I’m Bi or not, and he doesn’t have any friends who are girls. So what does this whole thing mean?   – Jessica

Lauri: This dream is confirming what you already know, a threesome is a bad idea. The girl in this dream represents the idea of a threesome. She is Mulatto because you are 50/50 on this idea. In the dream, the other girl is his friend, which leads me to believe he must have been the one to bring this idea into the relationship.

The make out session between you and the girl represents the conversations you have engaged in with your boyfriend about the idea of a threesome. Kissing in dreams can almost always be connected to waking life conversation because – like kissing – it takes two mouths to communicate.

Now, the reason why you leave when the phone rings is because your wiser inner mind is “calling” upon you to leave this idea behind. And it really brings home this point when it shows you the two of them kissing and you become jealous. Your dream is showing you that a threesome would expose your relationship to all kinds of unwanted feelings and complications.

And just as you had sex with just him in your dream, so should you stick with just him in waking life. This dream is a very honest representation of how you truly feel about the matter so I would suggest you no longer joke about threesomes anymore. Your inner mind does not approve.

Jessica replies: This was SOO dead-on!! Thank you!!

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I’m a young woman in a very happy committed relationship. In the last few weeks, I’ve had multiple dreams about pregnancy and babies that are so realistic I have trouble coming out of the dream and back to reality. The first dream was my boyfriend and I getting ready to go out to dinner. I was observing us put on our coats… then Dream Me turned around and was HUGELY pregnant, maybe 8 months. My boyfriend and I smooch, then leave. That was it.

Next, I dreamed that I was holding our baby daughter — a newborn, less than a month old — and rocking her close to me.  I remember how she looked up at me with so much astonishment, how much she weighed, how she fit in my arms… I woke up feeling lonely and so empty but at the same time, I felt overjoyed and fulfilled.

I can’t shake these dreams — they are so real!

Lauri: At the end of your dream report you say that you can’t imagine that anything is lacking in your life. You’re probably right and in fact, this dream reflects just that. The pregnancy and the baby actually show us that something new has entered into your life, something very precious that you want to hold onto and keep close to you just as you were holding the baby close to yourself in the dream.

My bet is that the idea of your boyfriend being “the one” is what has been growing inside of you, like a pregnancy, and that you are now ready to take it to the next level. Or perhaps, since you did have the baby in your dream, your relationship has already reached that new level. I do wonder though, if there is something you feel that the two of you are not opening up to each other about, because putting on your coats is about something in waking life you are keeping “under wraps.” Could it be the M word?

The emotions you feel when you wake up from a dream are very important because they are connected to how you feel about something in real life. Let’s look at your relationship again. Would you say it is very fulfilling? And would you also say that you are beginning to feel you want even more (the M word), hence the simultaneous emptiness? This relationship is your baby and you are soooo ready to nurture it and help it grow and develop into its full potential.  Oh, and the way the baby is looking up at you is important too. It reflects that you feel the relationship is looking up as well.

Dreamer’s response: I was very relieved when I read your interpretation of fulfillment. Even though I have every confidence in my relationship, it is always nice to be affirmed. It’s funny that you should mention putting on our coats being a metaphor for maybe covering up the marriage issue. I say that because the last dream (of holding my daughter) prompted me to finally bring up the subject of marriage and led to a lovely, heartfelt conversation that put us back on the same page. I learned that we both want marriage — soon — but we aren’t financially prepared right now, but will be in the next few years. And although patience isn’t a virtue I normally possess, I know that it will be worth it to wait for a time when we are ready in as many ways as possible.

In response to your questions, yes, I find my relationship very fulfilling. I want for nothing other than a slightly cleaner house, at this point. He is caring and considerate, open with his thoughts and feelings, and tries to always put our relationship first. Yes, I definitely want more — I have never been able to have enough when it comes to him, heh heh. But, I also know that I don’t want to rush a wedding — after all, I only plan on doing it once. I want to do it right!

It is so affirming to hear you say that I’m coming across as ready for the next step — even in a dream.

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I was traveling at night in the rain to a baseball game in Oakland (I do not live there, but my boyfriend loves the A’s). On the way I stopped at an apartment . I knocked on the door and was greeted by a beautiful man I did not recognize. I was immediately attracted to him and I tried to leave but a bright silver cord connected us from my chest to his. I gave up fighting and followed the cord until we were in a passionate embrace. I kissed the stranger like he was a long lost lover! We ran to his bedroom and made love, and afterward I went to his closet for a robe.  Then his live-in girlfriend came home! We hid in the closet, terrified. He went out to distract her but she found me. I felt terrible for hurting her but not sorry — I was in love. Then I woke up. – Roslynn

Lauri: Your dream starts where you are driving in the rain, which is a good indication you have been traveling through life with a bit of sorrow lately as that is what the rain is, your tears (even if you only shed them on the inside). Your destination is Oakland, which you connected to something your boyfriend loves. Good job making that connection! This suggests that you are trying to reach a place in your relationship where your boyfriend will love you the way he loves the Oakland A’s.

You make a stop in the dream before you reach your destination because in waking life you need to stop and gather yourself because something is not going so well. The man in your dream is a part of you, he is a part of your self that you need to be attracted to and that you need to unite with (hence the sex) and utilize in your life right now. This is why you were connected to him in your dream… he is you, your male energy, the part of you that can be “ballsy” and stand up for what is right and handle the situation.

The silver chord is widely believed to be our spiritual connection to our own intuition and higher self.  You are connected at the chest because the chest is where the heart is and where we carry our emotions. Your dream may be telling you to “step up to the plate” (since we’re using baseball references) and have a heart to heart with your BF. Notice how you gave up fighting in the dream? You need to give up fighting in real life too – perhaps even quit fighting with yourself – and connect with him on a male energy level. In other words, don’t let your emotions cloud the conversation. Sometimes the pain we feel overpowers or distorts the facts.

Hiding in the closet suggests there is something in waking life you may be hiding, perhaps a certain thought or idea you have been keeping to yourself. The girlfriend represents your role as girlfriend. Yes, everything in your dream is all about you! Your dream is showing you that, as a girlfriend, you need to “open up” about this issue or this thought that you have been keeping to yourself. It may hurt – just as the girlfriend was hurt in the dream – but honesty is always the best policy.

Roslynn’s response: Thank you so much for analyzing my dream.  I was surprised to read the interpretation that I was hiding a thought in real life, because as soon as I read that I knew it was true.  Since March my boyfriend (of two years) and I have been talking seriously about getting married.  I love him so much and we are both excited! He chose a location, we outlined a budget, and we recently agreed to announce to both our families at Thanksgiving.

However, I’ve had a gut feeling that something was off for a little while.  He talks a good game when we are with family and friends but when we are alone the vibe is lacking our usual closeness.  I have asked more than once what’s wrong but he insisted everything was fine.  I tried having more sex, less sex, more dates… nothing helped.

After reading your assessment I knew I couldn’t ignore the elephant in the room any longer.  I did what every woman should restrain herself from doing — I checked his phone.  It was awful!  There were dozens of text messages to other women.  Dozens!  Most were just flirty, some were totally sexual.  It was clear he was having sex with one woman in particular every few weeks!  I was horrified, crushed, nauseated…stunned!  I had been ready to share my life with this man. Suddenly little clues I had been willfully ignoring all fell into place.  He had been cheating on me for months, starting when he privately proposed in March.

Obviously, I confronted him and we had it out Big Time.  How could he do this to me?!? and Why?

He had no excuses.  He crumpled like a wet taco, said he didn’t know why he had done it, the other woman meant nothing to him, he had never wanted to leave me, HE STILL LOVED ME more than ever, it was just sex, he had always planned to stop before the wedding…

I was so hurt and disgusted, with him and myself.  He admitted that he needed help and then begged me to stay with him and work through it.  Shame on me, I thought about it.  I asked my mother and best friend for advice and was shocked that my mother’s advice was to see if I could forgive him.  She is usually very protective of me, but this time she commented that if I had found out after we were married I would have had to just cope, forgive, and move on so why not do so now?

Even if I could have forgiven him, I would never have trusted him again.

So the wedding is off.

Thank you Lauri for helping me listen to myself.  I can see now that I knew more than I was ready to admit.  Driving through the rain in my dream definitely seems like the sadness I have felt trying to figure out what was wrong with us, and thank goodness my inner male self knew I had to put my foot down even if it hurt my heart.

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My husband passed away this past January and since then I’ve had a lot of dreams about him. This is the last one I had two nights ago: I was standing inside a building and saw my car in a parking lot when it started to hail. I saw my husband run up to it and drive it away. Next thing I know, he’s standing beside me in the building and starts handing out grey T-shirts to strangers (three women) and then gives me one that has the word “Arizona” printed on it. I smile at him and say thanks and then we start walking further into the building with a small crowd of people. This is the second time I’ve dreamt of my car and my husband in a stormy situation. What does this mean?

Lauri: I am so sorry to hear about your loss. My heart is with you. I am glad you are paying attention to your dreams right now because they can actually be a nifty little built-in healing mechanism in that they allow you to safely sort out your feelings and thoughts as well as help you to move through the grief. So let’s delve into this dream and see how your inner nuts and bolts are helping you to work through this really tough time.

The building represents the relationship you built with your husband. The storm and the hail is your current emotional state. You are currently trying to “weather” a downpour of depression and perhaps even a sense of growing numb or cold to things that used to interest you.

The car is your ability to progress and move forward down your road of life, as well as your motivation and “drive” to keep going. It is in a parking lot because when your husband passed, I’m sure you felt as if your life stopped too. You also probably had to put on hold or “park” a lot of things in your life so that you could gather yourself. Your husband drives away in the car because you are still feeling like he has up and left you behind. This also reflects a deeper sense that he has gone on a different journey without you.

Then he’s suddenly beside you. I believe that shows your deeper belief that yes, even though he did leave you, he is still with you. The grey T-shirts represent the depression you are currently in, your sense that all the color has left your life. The three women are most likely different aspects of yourself such as mother, wife, career woman. They are the three biggest roles you play in life that now seem strange to you because when your husband died, it changed your identity and sense of self.

The shirt that says Arizona is interesting. Does Arizona hold any significance to you? Any personal associations? If not, perhaps Arizona is referred to in your dream because it is currently an embattled state and your inner mind may somehow connect Arizona’s battle with your inner battle. Also, Phoenix is the capitol of Arizona and a Phoenix is known to rise from the ashes… just as you will certainly rise again from your grey ashes of depression. That may very well be the main message this dream — or perhaps even your husband — is trying to convey to you right now.

I also believe the small crowd of people you walk into represents the small crowd of people who have gone through the loss of a spouse and that you may want to find and join some sort of bereavement support group, if you haven’t already. Being around and communicating with people who understand what you’re going through will help you to know that you are not alone, and more importantly, that you will be able to get through this and move on with your life. I believe this was a very powerful dream. And I wouldn’t doubt that your husband may indeed be trying to guide you through this heart-wrenching time.

Dreamer’s response: Thank you so much for responding to me. My dream makes so much sense to me now. I’m amazed at how your interpretation reflects exactly how I felt and am still feeling. I did feel as if he had abandoned me and went off onto another journey without me. For the last sixteen years, we’ve always done everything together. I know my husband is okay now because he told me this in a separate dream I had. You’re also correct that I’ve been having a hard time “finding” myself and figuring out who I am without him. The depression hits me really hard some days and things I used to love to do, I could totally care less about now. Most everything I did, I did for him and now he’s not here to do things for and it’s like, “What do I do with myself now?”

As I was just fixing to type out and tell you that the “Arizona” T-shirt made no sense to me either, it hit me that I have been to Arizona. Richard and I went on our last vacation together on 7/31/09 for seven days and part of the trip was to the Grand Canyon. I had this dream the early morning hours this past Saturday, 7/31. I’m wondering if he’s trying to tell me something or just wants me to remember the good times we had together. I don’t know… 

As far as the grief support group, I have looked into it. I thought I was doing okay without attending one, but maybe, in light of this, I should attend after all.

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Every Wednesday I get to dissect a sex or relationship dream for my friends at

I’m female, single, and very NOT pregnant, but I recently had a dream in which I had just told the guy I’ve been seeing that I’m pregnant. We haven’t discussed being exclusive, but I haven’t been with anyone else since I met him two months ago. Anyways, I’m at his place when I tell him I’m pregnant and clearly recall that he immediately tells me that he won’t have sex with me anymore because I’m too “delicate” and “fragile.” I get upset and start to argue with him but he won’t let me get upset so he hugs and cuddles me to calm me and keeps whispering over and over again that I’m “delicate” and “fragile.” Sorry there was no sex in this dream, but it’s been preying on my mind. Thanks for the help! – Nina

Lauri: Dreams of pregnancy are very common, even when you aren’t hankerin’ for a hunk of bun in your oven. What it means is that something new is emerging in your life or within you. Seems to me that the idea of becoming exclusive with this guy is what is “growing inside of you.” Through this dream you are going through a dress rehearsal — so to speak — to see how it might go should you bring the idea of exclusivity up to him.

The dream takes place at his place because his place represents his mindset. You are wanting to get in there and see if he would be open to the idea you are pregnant with. He says he won’t have sex with you anymore because you are afraid he will not… ahem… “come together with you” on this idea. When he tells you that you are too delicate and fragile, it is really you telling yourself this. It’s not that you are too fragile to have sex, but perhaps too fragile to be turned down, which is why you argue in the dream. It is an argument with yourself whether you should bring the idea up or not. Just as he hugs you in the dream, you’d love for him to embrace this idea. I don’t think the dream is telling you not to do it, I believe it is letting you know that this is what you want — and warning you that if you do bring it up and he’s not hip to exclusivity, it might be a crushing blow… so be prepared.

Nina replies:  First, I have to thank your for your time and expertise in providing me an analysis. Second, wow.  I’m amazed at the ease and clarity with which you intepret the symbols and circumstances of my dream. Your interpretation hit all the notes of the my ponderings with this possible “relationship” and have subsequently brought my thoughts to focus. I am truly impressed and think it wonderful that you share your skills so generously.  Again, my sincere thanks.

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Every Wednesday I get to dissect a sex or relationship dream for my friends at  Em and Lo: Sex, Love and Everything In Between  This week’s dream is from a woman who is wondering why she’s dreaming about an old flame…

I have a reoccurring dream that is driving me crazy. I am in a seven year relationship but I keep having a dream about this guy I still have feelings for who I had a fling with. In this dream it’s always a family member telling me that “John Doe” is here to see me and I’ll get ready to see him but I never do. Something always ends up happening so I am unable to see him. When I’m with my significant other I find myself thinking about my old fling and actually wanting to see him. Please help!

Lauri: It’s common to continue to dream about someone who really “lit our fire” even decades after we were with them. As time goes on, the person no longer represents him or herself but rather the excitement and passion that we experienced when we were with them. In my research I’ve found that these old flames tend to pop into our dreams when our current relationship becomes a little too routine or when our life becomes hum drum. The inner mind will bring this person into our dreams to remind us that it is time to re-ignite our inner spark, time to bring the excitement and passion that person represents back into our waking life or current relationship. Remember, it’s the feelings that they are connected to, not the person.

But what concerns me though is that you said you had a fling with this person. Does that mean it was a brief romantic relationship during your current seven year relationship? Or did this fling precede your current relationship? Whatever the case, the fact that you are never able to see him in your dreams is where the message lies. You mentioned that you still have feelings for him and think of him. Your wiser inner self knows that – morally – you cannot “see him” anymore because you are in a committed relationship. And if you want this relationship to continue, you need to realize that “seeing him” is no longer an option. You are no longer together for a reason.

I suggest you take that energy, those feelings your dreams give you and turn it towards your boyfriend. Whenever Mr. Ex Fling shows up in your dream, harness those passionate feelings you wake up with and put them to good use, if ya know what I mean…wink, wink!

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