Cheating dreams can be infuriating, worrisome and the cause of many a slap across the face first thing in the morning. In fact, in a recent survey I conducted, with over 5000 participants, the cheating dream came in as the #1 most common dream! As upsetting as these dreams can be, the good news is that they rarely indicate that your mate is getting his or her pleasures elsewhere. They do suggest, however that something rather than someone is taking the time and attention from your mate that you feel you deserve.
The following dream is the perfect example of how the cheating dream runs rampant through our collective psyche… and why! This is from my nationally syndicated newspaper column The Dream Zone:
Since my boyfriend and I started dating over 2 years ago, I constantly have dreams that he’s either cheating on me or that he’s leaving me for another girl. I’m sure he’s not cheating in real life so why am I having these dreams all the time? – Kira 28, Wausau
Lauri: Since you’re certain your boyfriend is as loyal as a Labrador, let’s figure out the other reasons you might be getting these dreams. Is there something else in his life that you are a bit jealous of? Work? The X Box? Is he in a band? Once you can pinpoint what it is that feels like a third wheel in the relationship, it’s time to compromise. Offer to give up or cut back on something your mate isn’t a big fan of if he promises to cut back on the activity that is causing you to feel left out. If you both stick to the compromise, you’ll find that the dreams will stop.
Kira replies: That makes perfect sense! It is definitely our jobs. My boyfriend and I work often and our shifts are always changing so we aren’t able to spend much time together. I know I feel guilty about working long hours many days in a row and I’m sure he does too. Maybe it’s time for a career change! Thank you, I feel much better!
When you can understand the symbolism in your dreams, they wont freak you out anymore. Like Kira, you’ll feel much better too! You’ll also be able to see that they are giving you extremely important messages you need to know to improve your behavior, your relationships, your current issues and your life! It’s a much bigger deal to be able to understand your dreams than you think. If you had a copy of Dream On It on your nightstand, you’d be able to figure out your dreams every single morning!
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